Moving in with a spouse for the first time is certainly an exciting time in any relationship. However, it can present its own set of challenges, especially when it comes to blending accumulated belongings from two different lives into one.
You can make the transition much easier and minimize your stress levels by following these tips:
- Downsize Belongings First.
Taking an inventory of each person’s belongings beforehand is essential to ensuring that you both haven’t brought two toasters (and a lot of unnecessary clutter) into your new home. Before you move, decide what items will be sold, donated or thrown away.
- Measure Remaining Furniture.
This will save you a lot of stress on moving day if you know ahead of time if you have the space for certain pieces in your new home.
- Rent a Storage Unit.
Often times, moving in with a spouse will entail making decisions about unnecessary furniture and other items. Renting a storage unit ahead of time will force you to make decisions about furniture before you move, which will reduce clutter before you enter your new home together. Perhaps one of the biggest advantages is it can reduce the conflict between couples that arises when one person is unwilling to part with certain items that the other deems undesirable.
- Tackle Tense Conversations As Soon as Possible.
Moving in with a significant other for the first time can open the floodgates to a lot of tension-filled conversations, including a partner’s inability to part with certain items that the other might not be fond of, finances, how expenses will be shared or even prenuptial agreements. Discuss these topics as soon as possible and resolve any issues so that moving into a new home is a happy time and not a stressful one.
- Set Boundaries Before Moving In.
Conversations like who is responsible for which household tasks will make the transition much easier.
- Trial Run.
Spending a week or more at your significant other’s house beforehand can not only help you decide if moving in together is right for you, but it will also help bring certain problems to light and cause you to address them. A healthy solution involves never forcing your partner to change.
You can make your experience of moving in with your spouse a happy time by simply taking a few precautions.